I love weddings, even when I’m not the bride.

This one is a bit different. I got my lapband on and I haven’t lost all the weight yet. I know it’s not the end of the world but I left the town where the wedding is just after I’d lost my first 30 pounds. I still needed another 20 off and they’re nearly all still with me. I worry that I’m going to be asked “How come it didn’t work??”

What do I say?

“Uhhh, I lost it all and then I found it?” It’s not true. “I went through a hellish 2 1/2 years and I didn’t care if I lost weight?” That’s too much information for people who care about me.

I’m going to think positively and assume all my old friends will be glad to see us at the wedding and nobody will care that I’m not skinny. If they do, are they really friends at all?

My dear husband has been eating rabbit food for the past 2 weeks. He says he’s trying to feel better but I know he wants to look good at the wedding. I’m not sure why I can’t get my head in that space but it just won’t fit right now. I’m not gorging on chocolate truffles but my portion size could stand a cutback.

Do you ever find yourself wishing you had the determination to take it all off.. NOW ? That’s what I’m searching for – determination.

Sonja’s Sojourns is the title of a series of online dating articles written for us by a good friend in San Diego.  She’s around my age-ish (nobody is as old as me, sadly) and we quickly became good friends.  She met her sweetie on our site and we’ve remained close ever since she stopped writing.  She had a decidedly quirky approach to dating and dating on the internet in particular.  That’s how she found her man – he made a comment on one of her articles and once they got together, her dating topic ideas just dried up.

We’ve been writing back and forth for years and when I told her I was getting the lapband put on back in 2007 she wanted one.  Remember when I said I had a friend that went to Mexico and got one?  That’s her!  Because of all the research she did and the great experience that she had, my son went to the same hospital for his lapband.

The three of us have lost nearly 200 pounds!  (not each.. that’s taking all the flab and piling it together on the scales)

So..  today I was strolling the net and what did I find?  She has a blog!  Not just any blog but a wonderfully funny blog.  She’s one of the funniest writers whether she’s telling about being unemployed and training to be a census worker, visiting her stepmother who’s lost touch with reality or her daily travels through life.  If you’ve got a few minutes, check out But Ciriously – you’ll be glad you did! Tell her I sent you.